Sometimes there is no happy ending…
Though you wouldn’t expect anyone to celebrate a thing like divorce, I celebrate my freedom! 🎉 I am so happy I found life and joy after divorce. I am proud of the woman who made the decision to leave everything behind to seek real peace and real joy and not just the superficial “couple goals” happiness.
I finally realized that love isn’t supposed to hurt and marriage isn’t supposed to feel like you are carrying the weight of your partner’s unresolved issues. We all deserve to be in a space where we feel heard, seen, and respected. If you are not experiencing that now, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate some things.
During the pandemic in 2020, when we were all forced to sit down and “stay home,” I finally had the time to focus on many of the things in my life that I was too busy to pay attention to before. It was with the quarantine that I began to see that I was not healthy mentally. I suffered from severe anxiety and major depression and had experienced several panic attacks. My anxiety was debilitating for me, but I was so busy being a mom and a wife, I couldn’t see it. I was on autopilot.
I began to do some meditation and prayer and realized that my marriage was a major source of my unhappiness. I had a beautiful daughter, a new business I was excited about, and a loyal fan base, but deep down, I was miserable. I knew I had to make some tough decisions if I wanted to live the life I desired. I simply wanted peace.
How do you know if divorce is the right decision for you? The answer is: You don’t know. I never want to be the person who tells other women that they should divorce their husbands. Sorry sis, I am not that kind of person, so you’ll have to make that decision for yourself. Let’s be honest, no one gets married with the intention or even thought of divorce. Then sh*t gets real and you feel there is no other option. Sadly, after 12 years, I knew I had done all I could do to fight for my marriage and I had to let it go. I speak for the first time about my divorce on my YouTube channel here! If you are facing this type of decision in your life, here is some advice I can give you:
- Schedule several (free) consultations with divorce attorneys to learn your options.
- Plan slowly and quietly
- Seek God and pray for peace
- Find your village (you will need support)
It will by far be one of the hardest things you’ve ever done, but I have faith in you! You owe it to yourself to go after the life you deserve. Guess what? There’s life after divorce and it will look exactly like you want it to, if you put the work in – so perhaps there is a happy ending after all!
You’ve got this 💋
xx Candace
There’s life after divorce and it will look exactly like you want it to, if you put the work in – so perhaps there is a happy ending after all!
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